“I’m sick of following my dreams: I’m just going to ask them where they’re going and hook up with them later.” From the “Secret Life of E. Robert Pendleton”
We have beaten up the notion of having dreams as airy and unrealistic even harkening back to the entertainment field and the image of trying out for the chorus line in a Broadway musical. How many times does the passionate ingénue have her hopes dashed by another unwarranted rejection? Is her path the same as the one travelled by other more or less talented individuals, or is the path uniquely her own? Will she persevere? Will she realize her dream?
Goals ARE Dreams with a deadline!
The typical process of goal setting can send some of us into a frenzy, but there are multiple ways to approach this before you abandon it altogether. You may have the dream of running a marathon, losing weight or buying a house as examples. While having the dream is special in and of itself, the act of fulfilling that dream comes from more than just wishing it to be true. The more specific you can be, the better. “Losing 10 lbs.” is different than “losing some weight,” because it gives you a clear idea of what success looks like. Knowing exactly what you want keeps you motivated until you get there. Add a visual representation to reinforce the image of your stated goal and think about the specific actions that need to be taken in order to reach your objective. Vague directives like “sleeping more” or “eating less” are uninspiring and weak. You need to be clear and precise. “On weeknights I will be in bed by 10PM,” sets up a simple reference and behavior that will support you in achieving your expressed purpose of getting more sleep which is one component of your dream to lose weight. Keep the message to yourself simple and it becomes locked in. It is easier to plan your evening activities accordingly so that bedtime becomes more consistent and the dream of losing weight is closer to becoming a reality. Keep a daily log as reinforcement.
Dream BIG or small, but dream. This is your opportunity to choose.
• Make a list of 5 dreams
• Select 1 dream that makes your heart sing
• Choose 1 action that can take you closer to your goal
• Do it!
©2011 Maureen Weisner